This church camp, we will study how to BUILD CHRISTIAN RELATIONSHIPS. There are 4 conditions we need if we are going to BUILD CHRISTIAN RELATIONS.
[This is the 7th message about the fourth condition]
Building Christian Relationships
- A Portrait of Love (Part 1)
- A Portrait of Love (Part 2)
- A Portrait of Love (Part 3)
- That Little Piece of Flesh That Dwells Between Our Jaws (Part 1)
- That Little Piece of Flesh That Dwells Between Our Jaws (Part 2)
- How to Have Unity in the Church
- How a Christian Brother Who Sins Against Us is to be Treated
How a Christian Brother Who Sins Against Us is to be Treated (Matthew 18:15-20)
by Dr William Harding (Professor Emeritus of Old Testament and Practical Biblical Theology, Biblical Theological Seminar)
Matthew 18:15–20
15 Moreover if thy brother shall trespass against thee, go and tell him
his fault between thee and him alone: if he shall hear thee, thou hast
gained thy brother.
16 But if he will not hear [thee, then] take with
thee one or two more, that in the mouth of two or three witnesses every
word may be established.
17 And if he shall neglect to hear them, tell
[it] unto the church: but if he neglect to hear the church, let him be
unto thee as an heathen man and a publican.
18 Verily I say unto you,
Whatsoever ye shall bind on earth shall be bound in heaven: and
whatsoever ye shall loose on earth shall be loosed in heaven.
19 Again I
say unto you, That if two of you shall agree on earth as touching any
thing that they shall ask, it shall be done for them of my Father which
is in heaven.
20 For where two or three are gathered together in my
name, there am I in the midst of them.
How? In the manner which Jesus prescribes.
Step 1
Go to the brother privately and tell him his sin (v15)
'Fault' means 'sin'.
Don't beat around the bush, lest you forget to say it.
Do go PRIVATELY.
"gaining" a brother means winning a brother to a twofold restoration of relationship between God & Man and Man & Man.
Step 2 (if 1 fails)
Take one or more with us and go see that brother privately again (v17)
Why take more people?
So that they may be witnesses to the words this brother says (Deut
19:15). Then they may testify to the elders if something happens.
They are to also help persuade him (cf v17a, 'hear them')
Step 3 (if 2 fails)
Appeal to the church (v17a)
Step 4 (if 3 fails)
The church is to excommunicate him
He is to be dropped from the membership of the church. This means, if he
is on a church board, he resigns, if he teaches, he resigns, if he is a
musician, he ceases, anything to do with the church, ceases.
Does this mean we are to be unkind? Not at all because the Bible tells us to be kind to everyone.
This is a commandment from Jesus.
Step 5 (after telling the church)
Jesus gives the church the authority to excommunicate him (v18)
'Bound' means to prohibit.
'Loose' means to allow.
This means that whatever is prohibited in God's Word on earth is prohibited in heaven. God will ratify this.
Cf 1 Cor 5:13 and 2 Cor 2:5-10
Excommunication is done for the good of the sinning brother.
After Jesus says those things, notice v19. If 2 come together in prayer
for something they wanted, God will grant it according to His will.
Why is it so? Why will the Lord do that?
Jesus explains in v20 - He will be spiritually present with those
praying together in His Name (or in His authority) so that what is
prayed will be in His will.